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Mom Talk: Struggles With Weight Loss

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After you have a child, you still have the extra ‘baby fat’, as people would like to call it. But, for me, it’s completely different. I have struggled with weight loss for a very long time.

I’ve been considered ‘overweight’ ever since I was in middle school. I always got picked on and judged on how I looked that I never had any self esteem to get me motivated enough to really change.

I’ve been brought down by doctors, friends, and even some family, because of my weight. I’ve never really been motivate to find some exercise or a better diet that I feel comfortable changing or trying to do. I was one of those girls that would rather play video games than go outside.

High school, I grew to except it, but I wasn’t truly happy. I didn’t want to be thin like a toothpick. I wanted to lose the belly fat. The muffin top that made me feel like nothing would ever fit me because of it. I would change my clothes more than I could remember because I felt like I didn’t look good in them.

Until, I met my fiance. He made me fell like no matter what size I was, I was still beautiful. He helped me see past the muffin top. After having our daughter, I still have the muffin top. I’m a stay-at-home mom, it’s been difficult to do anything because I’m usually so tired in the morning and in the afternoon.

So I looked up what I could do to help me get rid of this muffin top, and keep it off, for good.

I looked up different exercises and challenges that I could try and I spotted the 30-Day Squat Challenge. I started it last Sunday, but I already notice a difference. My pants, that didn’t fit me, are slowly starting to fit me. I’m already starting to look a little smaller than I did.

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This is the Squat Challenge that I am doing. Just in case anyone is ready to make a change, just like I am.

I’m become proud of myself and excited that I’m finally doing, what took me years, to do. I want to feel what it’s like to be able to pick out clothes that actually fit, for once. I want people to notice me and not just my body size. I want to be able to love me for me.

I just started week 2 and I feel excited to do my squats every morning. I want to see if I can really finish this. I’m ready to make a change, a healthier change for not just my family, but for me.

 

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Mom Talk: When Do You Really Feel Ready For Another Child?

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I will always think of myself as a mom of two. Even thought, my son isn’t on this world, I always consider him, in anything. I hate having to explain to people why he isn’t here with us today.

After having our daughter, I thought that our family was complete. One boy and one girl. That’s all I’ve ever wanted, but its not like that. My fiance told me that he would like to have another child before our daughter turns two. He wants to try and hope that our next baby will be a boy.

To me, my daughter is all I really want, right now. But lately, I’ve started to change my mind. My daughter is growing up and it’s going by faster than I thought. She’s 6 months old and I already feel like her first birthday will be here before I know it.

Having another baby, will definitely keep me on my toes, but it would make our family whole again. Losing my son, I’m scared to have another baby because the next baby I have, might have the same thing my son did. Even thought it’s rare, I’ve talked to mothers who had it happen to them twice.

My fiance is basically ready to have another baby now, if I asked him. Me, I feel like I should wait until my daughter is a little older. Before you start thinking about having another baby, there are a lot of factors that you have to keep in mind.

  1. Finances: If you barely get by with having one child, a second one, might not be the best idea. You want to make sure you have the money to get the diapers, wipes, or even formula(if you are like me and can barely produce enough breast milk).
  2. Space: Right now, we are in a two bedroom trailer. Let’s face it, trailers are small and there is not a lot of room. Make sure that you have room for another baby because opposite genders can only stay in the same room until they are 4 or 5. If it’s the same gender, then you can just have your kids share a room.
  3. Daycare/Sitter: I’m lucky enough that my fiance and I don’t need to worry about daycare or a sitter, since I am a stay-at-home mom. Even if I was working, my fiance wouldn’t let me put any of our kids in daycare. Usually daycare is really pricey. Since I am a stay-at-home mom, I got offered to take care of another little girl come November. So, if you know someone that you can have watch your children, it would cost less than a daycare would.
  4. Emotionally: If you can handle the other one above, this one, is the most important. You have to be emotionally ready to have another baby. If you aren’t ready, you may just want to just take your time before you start trying. For me, it will always be a difficult time to prepare myself for another child, because of what I went through with my son.

If you ever think or feel that you aren’t ready, don’t feel pressured to do so. It’s not just your significant other’s choice, it’s also your choice. Talk to them and let them know that you aren’t ready for another one.

For me, I’m just dreading the conversation with my fiance, if and when he brings up when we should start trying, because I don’t want him to feel upset or hurt if I say ‘I’m not ready.’ My fiance is very understand and supported, he feels that he doesn’t want our daughter to be a only child. He wants them to have another sibling that they can go to high school together.

Always talk to your significant other, talking may not be the most fun thing to do, but it’s better to open up versus letting it all soak inside.

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Mom Talk: Doctor’s Appointments

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As a mom, we have to go to a lot of appointments for our kids. The most appointments you will ever go to with your child is when they are first born to a year old. Sometimes you have to go to extra appointments that isn’t to your doctors appointment.

About a week ago, we had to take my daughter to a heart doctor, because of our past with my son having HLHS. When she was first born, she had a hole in her heart that have not closed quite yet.

When we went to the appointment, I was a relieved mama. The hole had completely closed and they didn’t want to see her back until she was 2. Appointments, like these, always get me worried because you never know if anything scary or bad could happen.

Today, my daughter has her 6 month check up and shots. Usually, it’s a normal appointment. Except, my daughter is very long, she gets that from me, and the doctor sometimes makes us come back for a ‘weight check’. Personally, if my daughter is healthy and gaining weight, I don’t see any problem.

However, doctors go by percentages on what my daughter should be gaining every time they come in for a checkup. It drives me crazy because she is gaining what she is supposed to, but because she is so long, they make it a big deal and we have to come back and pull more money out of our pocket.

I know the doctors mean well and want to make sure that our daughter is healthy, but sometimes they should just go by percentages because all babies are different. Every baby is completely different from the next. I think doctors forget about that and that they should take that into consideration versus what the percentages are saying they should be at.

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Mom Talk: Making Time For You

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As a stay-at-home mom, I’m with my daughter 24/7. A lot of moms can’t do it because they want the social interaction. I’m one of those that if you don’t message me or call me, I rarely will text someone other than my mother or fiance.

Growing up, I never had many friends, especially now, I don’t even have a best friend, but I’m not sad anymore because she was very toxic to my life.

Anyway, I haven’t left my daughter with anyone or let her spend the night with any family members. My daughter is only 6 months old and I don’t feel comfortable enough for me to leave her with anyone yet.

It’s not that I don’t trust the family members that I would leave her with, its just some of them do not respect how I am raising my daughter. Don’t get me wrong, they mean well, but some of what they did when their kids were younger, is something that I wouldn’t do.

You are probably thinking in your head, ‘What do you do if you want some time for you if you don’t feel comfortable leaving your daughter with anyone?’. Well, what I do, is once my daughter is asleep, I’ll go out in my living room, listening it, if she screams. Either I will finish up cleaning up the house or I will relax by watching Netflix or playing video games.

Sometimes, I’ll crochet and knit or watch videos on YouTube. Or anything else that I will be able to relax, but that isn’t too loud to wake her up. Some days, I just want to read, but I usually start to fall asleep.

If you are one of those moms that can leave your children in the care of your family, they go get some time for you! Doing it every once in a while, is not bad to do, but if you are partying every night, just to escape to be a parent. If you do that, I’m not judging, but if your parting comes first, before your children, maybe you would’ve thought twice about having kids.

Us moms do need a break. I have one day that I have my fiance take care of our daughter, so that I can get stuff done or work on anything that needs to be worked on. It’s not bad to take a break, just don’t make it more important than your children.

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Mom Talk: Should Kids Do Chores?

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On Facebook, I saw this video that talked about how a mother post pictures of her children doing chores. A lot of people were bashing this mother because she was making her children, as one had said, ‘making them slaves’.

When I was growing up, we always did chores. As soon as we got able to start understanding things, my mom would have us learn to do the simple stuff like picking up our toys or taking our dirty clothes and putting them into a hamper.

To me, this was a learning experience. It showed me how responsible it was to do them. It wasn’t because my mother was lazy or she made us do them because we were her slaves. She showed us how to do this, so that one day we would be able to do it when we were on our own.

I used to complain about doing the dishes, when I was younger, but I should’ve just done them and not complained as much. Now, I have to do them all the time. I don’t have a dishwasher, so I have to hand wash everything, not just that, but my daughters bottles too.

I think that kids, nowadays, needs to be taught that not everything will be done for you because, one day, they will have to do it by themselves. I also think that we should teach our kids the value of money and show how to save or spend.

I want to show my kids that if you work hard, you can make your dreams come true. No matter what.

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Minecraft: Animal Mobs

In Minecraft, there are a lot of mobs. I’m going to be talking about the animal mobs and telling you what they are in the game for, or if they are just there to make the game more playable. Let’s begin!

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Cows: These were the first animal mobs that you will see in the game. They are everywhere! Which is a good thing if you are looking for beef, leather, or milk. The only thing that really sucks is that they are not ride-able. However, if they get on fire, they can cook your meat so you don’t have to waste any coal doing it. If you get two cows together and feed them both wheat, they can mate and create a little baby calf.

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Sheep: Another animal mob that you will see many of, but you definitely need, if you are looking to make a bed. Sheep only used to prove wool, but now, they do provide meat. You don’t even have to kill the sheep just to get wool. You can shear them, instead. You can also dye the sheep whatever color you would like and they will produce that same color, as long as you don’t kill them.

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Pig: Pigs were the first animal that you could ride. As long as you had a carrot on a fishing rod, you were good to go! However, I think that it is the most difficult way to travel. Pigs are good for getting pork and you can also get them to mate with carrots.

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Chicken: When I first saw a chicken in Minecraft, I seriously thought it looked like a duck. A lot of people get confused whether it is a chicken or a duck. The chicken can lay eggs every 5 minutes, you don’t even need seeds to make them mate. You can use the eggs, that they drop, to also spawn them. They also drop chicken and feathers, when killed.

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Horse: A lot of Minecraft players were very excited when this animal mob came out. We were finally able to travel by another animal other than a pig. Of course, you need a saddle, with sucks because you can’t craft it, you have to go out and find one. You can put armor on the horse, to protect them whenever you ride them at night. and in order to mate them, you need golden apples. Once you tame them, they are yours or other peoples to use. Make sure you have some lead, they tend to wander.

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Donkey: Another animal mob that you can ride, BUT the difference between the horse and donkey, is that the donkey can carry a saddleback, or chest. The only downfall is that they are very slow, but if i had to chose between a horse and a donkey, I would chose a donkey no matter what because that it can hold more items.

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Llama: These were added last year, on the console. I haven’t had enough time to actually play or use these, but I do know that if you hit them, they will spit at you and you will get damaged. You also need a saddle, but the best part is that you can have a lot of them follow you, if they are attached to a lead. I believe that these also carry saddles, but don’t quote me on that.

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Squid: One of the more useless animal mobs. They only give you ink sacks, which is only really needed if you wanted to make a book that you can write in. You can attack them, they will just squirt ink at you and swim away. They don’t attack you or make you lose damage if you touch them.

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Bat: This is the only animal mob that I know really doesn’t do anything, like at all! The only good purpose of the bat, is to let you know that you are near a cave. That is also the only way to find them, is in a cave.

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Parrot: You can actually tame these and if they are on a music block, they can sing. That’s really all they do. You tame a bird to basically sing. I believe you can tie them to a lead, but I’m not 100% sure.

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Wolf: This animal you can tame and it will follow you around like a lost puppy dog. You can even make them sit and stay in one place, if tamed. Be care if you try to kill them, if they aren’t tamed, that wolf and other wolfs that are in the area, will all attack you at once. Plus, you can have as many as you want, they will protect you from everything, except Creepers.

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Rabbit: These little creatures are very fast, if you approach them. I believe that they can be tamed by carrots. If you kill them, they will drop either a rabbits foot or it’s skin.

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Ocelot: The closest thing we will get to a cat, but you can tame them with fish. Only if you can catch them, they are very fast. I’m not really sure if they drop anything because I usually don’t hang out in the jungle part of Minecraft.

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Mule: Mules are the other animal mob that you can ride. You can carry a chest, but they can’t wear any armor, unlike donkeys and horses. A lot of people will say that donkeys are better that mules, but mules speed is a lot better compared to the donkey. I don’t know if they drop anything, it might be leather.

So that are all the current animal mobs in Minecraft for the console version. If they add any new ones, I will do an updated post on the newer ones. Here you go!

 

 

 

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Mom Talk: How To Deal With Unwanted Advice

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As a mom, you will get told by everyone how to care for your child. From your family to doctors to strangers. Even before the baby’s born, you will be told how to even talk care of yourself.

With my first pregnancy, I wasn’t as vocal as I wanted to be. I’ve always been a quiet ‘keep to myself kinda person.’ So, when I became pregnant with my son, I hear about how you shouldn’t do formula or you should use a diaper genie, list goes on.

My daughter, it was completely different. I put my foot down to a lot of stuff. I’m still trying to make sure that peoples advice, doesn’t change the way I want to raise my kids. Plus, we as moms, get judged on everything.

To me, I will take the advice into consideration, but if it’s something that I, as a parent, will not do to parent my child, then I speak up. Sometimes, I can’t speak up to a family member because I’m afraid of hurting their feelings, but I have learned that when it comes to you parenting your kids, the only feeling that matters is your kids and yours.

There are three ways you can handle unwanted advise:

  1. Ignoring  it – This is what I usually do, if a stranger were to approach me with unwanted advise. I usually will nod my head. Sometimes, I do it with family, its easier to do, if you don’t want to make a big deal out or you know it will turn into a giant fight, this would be your best go to.
  2. Speaking up, in a polite way – If you are a person that voices your opinion, but don’t want to offend anyone. This would be more towards close friends, maybe family. Telling them in a polite way, will make it seem not as harsh as bluntly coming out and telling them what is what.
  3. Bluntly telling them straight up – I only go this far, if I’m frustrated. If I have had a bad day and didn’t have any coffee, I snap. I usually will only snap at family, because they have been in my shoes. Plus they understand that they would rather me snap at them versus my kids.

There is one thing that we always need to keep in mind. How we parent our kids, may not be the same as other, but we should respect how others parent. The world we live in, there are too many people judging before they know the full story, but when it comes to advise, we need to handle it as we feel comfortable.

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Minecraft PS4 Edition: Review

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I know a lot of you are thinking, ‘Minecraft is a childs game.’ Well, it is, but to me, it’s not bad game play.

I started playing back in middle school, I remember borrowing my neighbors username and password just to be able to play it. If you don’t know what Minecraft is all about, let me give you a quick background to the game.

Basically, there are two modes you can chose from: Survival and Creative. Survival is where you gather the supplies you need to survive and then you can go into a portal called the Nether. Or you can use your skills to face off against the Enderdragon in The End. Or, if you simply just don’t want to get killed and just want to fly and build stuff, Creative is the way to go.

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I prefer Survival. I like a challenge, so I put it on hard. You can change the difficultly to 4 different modes, as well:

Peaceful – This is when you can play with no mods or monsters. Perfect for new players to start out.

Easy – This mode has mobs or monsters that come out at night or they will spawn in dark areas. When you get hit by any of this mobs or monsters, you won’t lose as many hearts as you would if the difficulty was on Normal.

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Here are a few of what the monsters look like in Minecraft.

Normal – Basically, most of the experienced players use this mode. It’s a perfect balance of mods and monsters. Your hunger does go down a lot more and so won’t your hearts. So it might be a good idea to always keep some food in your inventory.

Hard – This is where you would see more mods and monster out in the day and night. Being hit by any of them will make you lose more hearts. Armor would be your best friend. Also, you might be lucky enough to get a zombie to break down your door. It’s rare, but in Hard mode, it is a better chance to get one.

I’ve played the PC, Xbox 360, Kindle, PS3 and PS4 versions of Minecraft. My favorite has always been PC because you don’t have to be friends to connect with anyone. The console versions, you HAVE to be friends with them in order to play. The only other way they can connect is if you have it to allow friends from friends join.

In over all, you can build stuff, be a farmer, fight mods or monster, and make potions. At time, it can get bored very quick when playing by yourself.

I don’t mind playing multiplayer online, but some of the people that I do play with always want to talk on a microphone. What really drives me nuts is when they follow you and think that you were building a house for all of us, when really, I was building a house for myself.

I almost forgot! Minecraft has created themes for the game, of course, it doesn’t come with the base game. I bought the builders pack and I have been in love with the Greek Mythology one.

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Minecraft’s Greek Mythology Game Pack. Doesn’t come with the base game. Must be purchased in the Playstation Network Store.

So, there you have it! I will making more blogs on the different themes, animals, mods, monsters, or building you can do in Minecraft. So look out for those!

 

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Mom Talk: Should You Smoke Around Your Children?

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Back in the day, we didn’t know how bad smoking cigarettes can be. Now, you don’t see any commercials promoting cigarettes or tobacco. Still to this day, people still smoke cigarettes.

Had I smoked a cigarette before. Yes, but I didn’t smoke enough for me to become addicted to them. My fiance smokes and last year, he almost went an entire year without smoking, but unfortunately, he got back into the nasty habit.

Smoking is a very difficult thing to quit, but one thing that drives me nuts is parents who smoke around babies or children. I believe that a baby or a child shouldn’t be anywhere never or around cigarettes.

Some of you may think that its okay, just because you grew up in a time your parents smoked around you. It’s not. Second hand smoke is even worst then just smoking a cigarette. It’s even worst for babies or children to inhale it.

Even when you are in another room or holding up the cigarette away from the child, they can still inhale the second hand smoke. Especially in a car. Rolling down the windows WILL NOT prevent the smoke from getting to the child.

As a mother, who had a child with a heart condition, it’s even more fatal. I’m one of those moms that will not go into a house or car if it smells like cigarette smoke. I was never around it and I want my kids to not be around it.

I especially don’t want to hear or see my kids pretending or wanting to smoke a cigarette. I will teach my children that cigarettes are bad and that you shouldn’t be like someone just because the smoke cigarettes.

I believe that my children should be able to breathe in fresh clean air versus second hand smoke. I’ve lost family because of cigarettes, I don’t want to risk my children’s life just because someone has to have a habit that they started.

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Mom Talk: Being a Stay-At-Home Mom

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A lot of moms don’t have the pleasure to stay home with their children nowadays. Back then, the man of the house would work, while the woman stay home and take care of the kids and make sure the house is clean.

It’s not for everyone, being a stay-at-home mom. If you are like me, and don’t have a license, then you are very limited to where you can go. (I’m working on getting it now.) The only places I can really walk to are to my mother-in-law.

It can be depressing or you can lose your mind at times, believe me, but I always get out of the house, once a week. Just so I don’t lose my mind. At times, I feel overwhelm, but I just take a deep breath and count to ten and then get back to what I’m doing.

I’ll admit that I really only have patience for my kids, but when I am around other people’s children, I really try to not lose my cool.

You might be saying that I am a terrible person for saying that, but I may not be the only one who thinks this way. Don’t get me wrong, I love my children. I just don’t like how other people raise theirs, but I don’t say anything. I keep it to myself.

Anyway, the best part of staying home, is that I get to spend all day and every day with my daughter. I don’t get to miss out on her firsts of everything. The best part, my fiance makes enough for us to do it. He busts his ass everyday to make sure that I am able to do it.

Of course that wasn’t my original plan. I had a job, and ended up getting pregnant with our daughter. I planned to go back to work, after my maternity leave, but once my daughter was born, all I could think of was that I didn’t want to miss out on her growing up.

Plus, I didn’t want someone else to raise my daughter. I wanted to be the one to witness all of her firsts. My mother missed out on watching all three of us growing up. I didn’t want to miss out on anything.

I do have to say though, being a stay-at-home mom, was the best decision I made. Once I get my license, the door will open up for me and my family. We won’t have to depend on someone to take us to where ever we want to go, but we will be able to decide whether we want to leave or go.

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Mom Talk: Technology Is Our Life

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Growing up, I was always outside. Everyday after school, I wouldn’t be inside. I would be outside playing with the neighborhood kids. There was never a day that we weren’t outside. Things have changed, since I was little. Technology is a lot more advance to the point that we don’t even have to physically turn on our lights.

Nowadays, I see more and more kids on a tablets or smart phones than going outside to play. What happened to making mud pies? Or playing tag?

Technology.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s very helpful, at times. I know some parents use it as a learning device, which is great! One thing that drives me nuts is seeing kids, less than 5 have their own phone.

There are parents who give their children technology to keep them distracted or busy so that they can get the house clean, make dinner, or even keep the busy when on a long trip. I see nothing wrong, as long as it is in moderation.

You see, I believe that our kids should be introduced to technology, at some point in their life. I don’t believe on starting them off on them until about age 4 or 5, but with only an hour a day to play.

I know a lot of people won’t agree on me about this topic, but kids or young children shouldn’t be on technology all day! I don’t care for my smart phone, I really don’t. The only reason I have it is because I need to check my e-mail, messager, and even to keep up with friends and family on Facebook. Other than that, I miss my blackberry!

Since I am a stay-at-home mom, I have that extra time to make sure that my kids aren’t always on the tablet or watching TV all day. I want them to be able to go outside and have fun!

But the one thing that drives me crazy is that when I see kids, younger than 5, who have their own phone already! I’m sorry, but that’s a big no to me! Some of them even have Facebook! I didn’t even have my first, flip phone, until I was 14! My fiance didn’t have one until 16!

My children won’t have one until they are 15 and they will start out with a regular flip phone, just like my fiance and I did.

To get back to the point, technology is ruining everything. If you really think about it, Facebook’s real purpose was to connect with your family and friends, but it’s become a place where you have to watch what you say, do, act, or anything! Because if someone where to search you into Google or any other search engine, whatever you post or do, never leaves the internet. It’s out to been seen by the world.

What happened to getting snail mail? What happen to the plain old telephone? Or playing board games with your friends?

Before you know it, technology will be doing everything for you, it’s already started. It has only just began.

 

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Mom Talk: Losing Friends

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A lot of things change once you have a baby. Not only does your life change, but sometimes your friends too. They might be excited when your pregnant, but once the baby is born and you don’t have time to spend with them, things changed.

You might even drop some friends in the process. Not because they weren’t good friends, but maybe you were more mature and didn’t want to deal with their drama?

That’s how it was for me.

I have kept so many people in my life, that caused me so much drama and problems, but I should’ve been clearing them from my life and focusing what would be best for my family.

Today, I cleaned the list up, the one person I first called my ‘best friend’. I’ve known her since 8th grade. We went to high school together, had lunch together, but didn’t hang out as much like we should’ve.

We both have been through enough, but I was always there for her. As time went on, I knew that everything I was telling her, my opinion or suggestions, was going out the window. Then I realized that this was who she was:

She was unwanted drama.

Everything that I had tried to help her on, always became into drama. Now, I’m not the friend who tells you what you want to hear, I tell you what I think. She didn’t like it, but knows how blunt I can be.

After all the drama that she’s caused, I had to drop her. I sent her one last messaged and blocked her from everything. She was the only real friend I had in high school, but it was time to grow up and move on. So that’s what I did.

I was getting to mature to deal with all the ‘high school’ drama that she was starting. One after another, I was overwhelmed with drama. Not mine, with hers. I did it because I thought it was best for me.

Sometimes you have to do something you really don’t want to do, but once you have a family, you have to answer the one question that you will answer over and over again:

What is best for my family?

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I chose to do what is best. Not because I wanted to, but because I needed to. It was what was best for my little family.

‘A friend can always be replaced, but family is irreplaceable.’ – Unknown

 

 

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Mom Talk: Feeding

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When I had my son, I tried to breast feed, but he only latched on once. Throughout the rest of his short life, I pumped every 3 hours, and I barely got an ounce from both of my breasts.

I told myself that maybe I wasn’t getting enough simuation? I didn’t get to have him on my chest, when he was first born because of his heart condition. After that, I had a day to hold him, before he went into surgery, after that, I wasn’t aloud to hold him until he was no on as many tubes and wires.

I figured that when I had my daughter, I would be able to breast feed, since she was able to be put on my chest, once she was born. I just kept breastfeeding, but when we went to her first check up, I knew that I wasn’t making enough for her to be full. So, I had to put her on formula.

I tired everything: drinking water, eating milk cookies or bars, drinking mother’s milk tea, but nothing worked. Finally, I had to face the facts that I couldn’t do the one thing that a mother was supposed to do.

But, I kept telling myself: ‘as long as she is fed, that’s all that matters.’ It is a struggle, but I did find out that not a lot of mother’s could breast feed, just like me. Which made it easier that I wasn’t the only one who couldn’t.

I had a lot of people told me that ‘breast is best’ or ‘if your baby doesn’t drink breast milk, they won’t be able to learn or develop like they should.’ If you can’t make enough for your baby to eat, why judge the mothers that had no choice, but to choose formula?

We shouldn’t judge on how parents feed their child, whether its breast milk or formula, as long as the baby is happy, healthy, and fed. That’s all that really matters.