Posted in Mom Talk

Mom Talk: What Some People Don’t Understand About Being A Stay-At-Home Mom

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What do you think of when you hear ‘stay-at-home mom’? Do you think, ‘Wow, they are so lucky, they must get so much time.’ or ‘Their kids must drive them crazy!’ or ‘They probably didn’t want to go back to work.’ There are so many opinions about stay-at-home moms, but they don’t understand what goes through the mind of a stay-at-home mom.

I’m a stay-at-home mom. I made the decision to become one when I realized that I didn’t want to miss out on any of my daughters milestones. I also talked to my fiance to make sure it was something we could afford to do.

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However, I didn’t expect to be a stay at home mom. Way before I even had kids, I did have a plan of what I wanted to do in my future. I wanted to become a teacher. Still to this day, I would love to be a teacher, but sometimes plans change when you have kids.

Let’s get back to me being a stay-at-home mom. The other downfall is that I don’t have a way to get from place to place because I’ve got some compilations with getting my license, so once a week, my mother comes to pick me up and it gives me a chance to get out of the house.

When I get back home, I’m in this state of mind: lonely. I know I’m not alone, but when you are a stay-at-home mom, the only people you talk to is your children and whenever your spouse is home. You are probably saying, ‘Don’t you have other friends or mom friends you can talk to or invite over.’

Yes, I do, but here is the thing about me. I have no problem talk to close family, but when it comes to friends, I feel like this: I’m bothering them. They are probably busy. They don’t want to hear from me. I don’t have a car, they will think I’m using them. They probably don’t like me. 

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Those sentences run through my mind when I think about talking to someone other than my family. I do have a few friends that stay-at-home, but I will always feel like a bother to them. Which I might not be, but I feel like that for everyone, anytime someone does something for me or my family, I feel it was done because I was a bother.

Moving on, a lot of people think their house would be spotless, being able to stay home. I try my best to keep the place in ‘decent shape’, but between ordering stuff online, broken appliances, toys everywhere, and having a bunch of stuff that we have no room for, it’s very hard to keep this place spotless.

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I’m lucky to sweep at least once a week or vacuum. Dishes, the ones that we use the most get rewashed everyday, the other just sit until we need them. I’ve gotten all the dishes done at one point, but they stack up quicker. Laundry has been difficult because of the fact that they are broken.

It’s not just that, I worry about not being able to pay off bills, my own medical bills. I worry about little things, but they turn into giant things because my mind makes them a big thing.

You also have to take in fact that my daughter always wants me, so doing stuff around the house during the day is difficult. ‘You can get them done when she goes to sleep or takes a nap.’ Yeah, I can, during her naps, I try to get as much as I can done, but when she goes to sleep for the night, it’s difficult because I’m exhausted and I usually take that time to relax doing what I want to do. Sometimes, I’m just too tired and just go to bed.

The one thing people always asks me is: Do you love being a stay-at-home mom?

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Yes and no. The no part is that you don’t socialize very much with adults, chores can be a challenge to do, you get depressed very quickly, you mind feels, and you never get a break, sometimes. Why do I love it? I get to see my daughter reach milestones. Watch laugh, cry, walk, find her voice, play with her toys, talk, and most of all, make her known that she is loved.

If you are a stay-at-home mom and can get all the chores done, being able to sit on the couch folding laundry with a cup of coffee, watching your kids favorite T.V. show, good for you! I’m glad you have the motivation to do all that, I wish I had motivation for that.

But, if you are like me, where we barely get stuff done, spend it most with our kids, forgetting to sweep, worrying about what to do with stuff that you can’t decided to throw away or keep. It’s okay!

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It’s okay that our emotions get in the way, we just have to learn to deal with them in the most healthiest way possible. It’s okay if you reach out for help, sometimes you just need an outsiders point of view.

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Posted in Arts and Crafts

*New* Katie’s Craft Studio

Hey Dearies, so for the next two months, starting today, I will be opening my little store. Since the holidays are coming around, I figured I would give this a little try, and if it becomes a big success, I will keep it going! I have also answered a few questions, if you are very interested and want to know more about what is going on.

What will I be offering?

I’ll be offering mostly all items that I have made by hand. Here is a list of the following products I will offering:

  • Towel Toppers
    • 2 Towels for $5.00 (Each one will have a different color on the topper, or you can request them to have the same color)
    • 1 Towel for $3.00 (You will have the opinion of choosing a color that you would like on it.)
  • Towel Holders
    • Small Towel Holder for $1.00 (Choice of your color, button, and metal ring for the hanger)
    • Big Towel Holder for $2.00 (Choice of your color and button)
  • Coasters (Styles vary)
    • Set of 2 for $4.00
    • Set of 4 for $6.00
    • Set of 10 for $12.00 (Also comes with a crocheted coaster holder)
  • Mug Cozies
    • Basic for $2.00
    • Character for $4.00
      • I can take requests for any characters, however, I will have to decline, if I don’t have the correct color yarn.
    • For a set of 4 for $5
  • Ear Warmers (Styles vary)
    • Babies and Toddlers for $3.00 (With a flower for an extra $1.00)
    • Kids and Teens for $5.00
    • Adults for $6.00
  • Hand Warmers (Styles vary)
    • Kids – Teens for $3.00
    • Adults for $5.00
  • Scarves (Styles vary)
    • Kids – Teens for $3.00
    • Adults for $5.00
  • Hats
    • Basic Beanie for Newborns – Children for $3.00
    • Adults (Styles vary) for $5.00
  • Place Mats
    • Sets of 2 for $4.00
    • Set of 4 for $6.00
    • Set of 10 for $12.00
  • Seasonal Items
    • Styles of products may vary.
    • Seasonal items will only last from the beginning and end of the month. After that, I won’t take anymore requests, unless I say otherwise.
  • Special Requests
    • Anything that is italic, is a special request, due to that it may take longer to make.
    • If there is a design or a request that you would like me to try out, please let me know and depending on the project itself and how long it would take me to make it, prices may vary.

Will you still be going live and keep doing Crafty Sassy?

I figured I would answer this question, due to the fact that I haven’t been as active and on it as much. Yes, I will keep doing Crafty Sassy, however, I will try my best to keep posting patterns and showing you what I am working on.

On Tuesdays, I will try my best to go live and show them, but if I’m not able to, I will post on my Facebook Page to let you guys know. I will still try to post on Tuesdays, as well, but I might not have much time to do so, if I don’t have time to do so.

How will this store work?

Well, it will be all online. Through Facebook or Esty, I will be posting the items. If an item is posted on my Facebook page, it means that I only have a few of that idea, most likely already pre-made. If an item is posted on Esty, means I just have to make them or I might of made stock of that item.

Everything will be done through PayPal.

Why is this only lasting for a short time period?

It’s only happening for a short time because I need to see if I can handle the demands and make sure that all the products I make are 100%, to my standards, a great piece of work.

Also keep in mind that I do have a life outside of crocheting and that I want to make sure I can balance that and crocheting, especially during the upcoming holidays.

If this is something I can handle, on my own, then I will keep doing what I am doing and offer more items and deals for you guys. If there is any change, on this new adventure, I will let you know all know, most of my updates will be on my Facebook page. Here is the link, just in case you want to stay updated:
https://www.facebook.com/katiesblog96971617/

What if I have questions?

If you have any questions, feel free to send me an e-mail at katie_farrington@aol.com or message me on my Facebook page. You can also message me on the following of the social media’s:

  • Instagram
  • Twitter
  • Pinterest