Posted in Mom Talk

Mom Talk: It’s Okay To Not Keep Everything (Baby Stuff)

Hey Dearies, I wanted to talk about another big problem that us moms have that I don’t think anyone has mentioned. What’s worth keeping and what’s not worth keeping from your baby’s stuff.

I know a few are you are problem screaming at me through the screen saying, ‘WHAT?!’, but let me tell you why.

As a mother who has lost a child and is currently raising one at the moment, we want to keep stuff that they have ever use, such as outfits, blankets, shoes, bibs, toys, etc. The list goes on and on, to the point you have to ask yourself one question:

Where am I going to put this all?

But, I’m here to tell you, it’s okay that you don’t keep everything. If you are like me and live in a tiny trailer, then you understand where I’m coming from. When you have a baby, you get lots of stuff and most of the stuff is NEVER used or is used maybe once or twice.

When my son passed away, I wanted to keep all of his stuff, even stuff that he had never used, not just for memories, but for our next baby. Not to mention, I made sure his stuff, that he did wear, would be in his own tote.

Growing up, my mom make sure us kids had 3 totes. Inside, she had a few of our favorite outfits, first pairs of shoes, baby books, and some other stuff. I loved the idea of keeping a tote for each of my kids, which is exactly what I did.

Even when I kept my son’s stuff, I still had a LOT stuff that I was never been able to use, not to mention, a lot of family member also get you stuff for the baby to be, which can be super helpful, but sometimes you feel like you HAVE to keep stuff like that. But let me tell you something:

ITS OKAY TO NOT WANT TO KEEP IT!

Don’t let friends and family make you think you HAVE to keep stuff that you don’t have room for or you just don’t want to keep. There are plenty of parents and parents-to-be who are in need of stuff as such.

Yes, you can save those items for the next child you plan to have, but if you don’t have space, sell it or give it to those who need it! Don’t have your house cluttered just because you want to save it for the next baby because when you do plan to have another baby, someone else will be willing to give you the same stuff that you gave them.

So, I bet you are probably wondering, why I even wanted to bring this up. Well, let me get to that because it wasn’t just because I had a lot of leftover stuff, it had more to do with the fact that my daughter was getting older and her room was turning more into storage, than an actual bedroom.

Yes, we do have closets, but living in a small trailer, you don’t have much room to begin with, so you have to work with what you got.

Since my daughter was getting older, I decided that it was overdue for me to go through her stuff and figure out what I was going to do with it all because she needed a room that she can actually play in.

I went through any baby stuff, such as clothes, rockers, bouncy seat, bibs, walkers, etc. Since my daughter was too old to be using those, I sold them. Which, to me, isn’t a big deal because they didn’t have any attachment to it.

So, what did I actually keep?

  • Baby Book
  • Hospital Bracelets
  • First outfits
  • First pairs of shoes
  • An outfit that she wore, only one from each size.
  • First pacifier
  • First blanket
  • The first dress I crocheted her
  • The crib
  • The bassinet
  • Baby swing

That’s it. The last three are because they had a meaning to me, which I am going to keep for that sake, but everything else fits in her tote. Also, when I mean I’m saving an outfit from each size, it’s one outfit from newborn to 12 months. Anything else, I have either donated or sold to those who really need it.

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But as moms or new moms, don’t feel pressured to keep everything, it’s okay to not want to. And it’s okay to keep everything, if you have the room and space for it, go for it!

Whatever preference you decide, it’s okay. Just remember, the moments and memories you create, is worth more than items itself.

Posted in Movies, Reviews

Movie Review: Look Who’s Talking (1989)

If you aren’t an 80’s fan and haven’t seen this movie, then you are totally missing out! This is one of my all-time favorites when it has to do with babies. If you haven’t seen this movie, do be prepared for some spoilers, but just because I spoiled the movie for you, doesn’t mean you need to not see it!

Here is the trailer:

This movie is about a woman, named Mollie, who becomes pregnant with her ‘boyfriend’, Albert, who is also a married man. She ends up having a son, named Mikey and hires a male babysitter, who is the taxi driver who drives and was there when her son was born.

The movie shows two sides, Mollie, who struggles to be a single mom when her ‘boyfriend’ leaves her to be on her own and the point of view of Mikey. Which was something that made the movie great! Seeing what a baby might be thinking about when they grow and when they become apart of the real world.

Not to mention, the movie shines a light on how hard it really is to be a single mother, especially when the father isn’t in the picture. It paints more than just a picture of a single mother, but also someone, who isn’t the father, can step up and take over the role without even making an effort to do so.

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Because this was released in the ’80s, it gave women hope that they don’t need to have a man in their life to raise their child and that they don’t need to go looking for a man because, in time, the right one could be somewhere where you least expected.

The movie also shows milestones that every parent gets to see as their children grow, although the milestones are only from birth till about almost 2 years old, it’s amazing to see how quickly milestones can be. In a movie, it can go from a few seconds, as they grow, but in real life, it goes much quicker.

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I also find the relationship that forms between Mikey and James. Even though he isn’t Mikey’s biological child, they have a bond that every father wishes they could have with their children.

In the end, the movie makes a good point to that even if you lost love, another will come around and accept you and your children.

Overall, I love this movie! It is perfect for whatever mood you are in, not to mention, very funny and points out a lot of stuff about having a baby that most of everyone has forgotten about.

Not to mention, there are two more movies that do follow with this.

What do you think about Look Who’s Talking? Is it a movie you have already seen or not? If you have seen it, have you seen the other two movies that go with it? Let me know in the comments down below!